Despite what some may have you to believe dating can sometimes be a real pain in the butt. With so many mixed signals out there, trying to make your way through the dating maze can really be tough. Here are some tips to consider when dating:
A shared sense of humor is important. Try to bring laughter to the date. Try to get a laugh out of the guy. That way you know you’ve got something. If he doesn’t get your jokes what else is he going to “get” about you?
Be yourself. People sometimes try too hard to impress. If they just relax a little, the date will go better and they will not have to worry about any of those little embellishments backfiring later on. The worst thing people do on first dates is lie. They are trying to improve their status so you will be interested in them.
Do not give up. But if things do not go well be prepared. Take your cell phone along on the date. A discreet call to a friend can help you engineer an early end to the date gone wrong.
There is a difference between first dates and the first face-to-face contact with someone you connect with through a dating service or ad. That is a meeting to assess each other, not a date.
If the date goes well do not hang on until the wee hours of the morning. There will likely be a next time. Don’t feel like you have to milk it for all it’s worth. Just look forward to spending time together again.
Look for something creative and make sure it allows you to interact. It will help if the activity relates to a shared interest, such as art or music.
Remember that the first date is supposed to be fun. You are getting to know this person and he is getting to know you. It should not be something that feels like a meeting with your boss. So relax, enjoy yourself, be natural, and go with the flow!
